Confidence…

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It is sad when you realize how few people truly believe in themselves. Failure has devastating side effects, and loss of confidence is one of the most severe. There is an old story about fleas that illustrates this point… You see, fleas are incredible jumpers. In fact, a flea can jump over 150 times its own size. If a man had the same strength, he could jump over 900 feet high. For some perspective, the Statue of Liberty is 305 feet high from base to the top of the torch. In addition, a flea can jump 30,000 times without taking a break. Imagine if we had that kind of strength and stamina. If you were to place some fleas in a jar with a lid on it, the fleas will of course begin to jump, repeatedly hitting the lid in their attempt to escape. After about a half of a hour, the flea, tired of banging his head against the lid, will lower his jump. Once they become accustomed to the fact that they cannot escape, you can remove the lid and the flea will only jump as high as where the lid was. He will never escape the jar because his mind has been reprogrammed to only jump so high. The flea limits itself because of conditioning and experiencing the school of hard knocks.
The flea no longer jumps to the maximum of his potential for fear of failure. Does this sound like you? Are you delaying a decision to start school or the military because you are afraid to fail? Well, it is ok to feel fear, it is not ok, however, to allow that fear to dictate your actions. You can do anything you want to do if only you were to apply all of your efforts to that endeavor. I believe in you. And it is my hope that one day you believe in you too. I’m out. Deuces!

Decisions…Decisions

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I had a conversation today with one of my buddies. He is going through a rough patch in his life. He is in the military and he could possibly get kicked out because of a DUI that he received a couple of months ago. To add insult to injury, not more than a week after the DUI he was busted for being at an off limits establishment. Now on the surface you might assume that  this guy is bad news. But that is not the case. He is actually a decent guy and a pretty good soldier. How then did he get himself into such a predicament?…Hold on…I’m going to lay down a heavy concept for you. Sometimes good people make bad decisions. My buddy is a prime example of this. Regardless of the reasons, the DUI is warranted. It is a terrible decision to risk your life and the life of others by driving inebriated. However, we must remember that a bad decision does not automatically equal a bad person. As far as the other situation. He was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He was in the car with a couple of guys and was not aware of their intentions. The off limits charge was dropped after the investigation determined that he really did not have any intent involved. However, his true fault was the individuals with whom he chose to surround himself.
Decisions…Decisions shape our future and define our past. We must all recognize the power of our decisions. We must also accept that our decisions bring consequences; negative and positive. Also, when those consequences hit, especially the negative ones, we must accept responsibility for the mess we have made. This is where most people have trouble. This is where I concentrated my conversation with my buddy. So often we want to place the blame for our troubles on everything and everybody but ourselves. Guess what? You can live your entire life like this and get by just fine. Living this way however, will never unlock your true potential as a human being. There is power in understanding that YOU are the reason why you are in the tough spot that you are in now. Think about it, if you know and accept that you are the reason for your struggle, then it bears to reason that you can also be the reason for your success.  All that it takes, is the right decisions. I’m Out. Deuces!

The Time Has Come

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How much time have you dedicated to making yourself better? This is a crucial question in the maturation of a person. What have you done to improve yourself lately? Does it matter? Well now, that depends on where you see yourself two years from now; four years from now; even ten years from now. Where do you want to be in life? Have you thought about the future? These are the introspective questions that separate those who are successful from those who are just “getting by.” The first thing I would say is that it is ok to not know exactly what you want to do in life. However, the time is now to start trying to figure it out. The process of self reflection starts here. What are your interests? I don’t care how off the wall they are. Let’s make a list. If all you like to do is shop or play Gears of War, write that down. At least it is a start.  Next, I want you to close your eyes and visualize your future two years from now. What do you look like? Are you in shape? Does your body finally look the way you have always pictured it? What type of car are you driving? Do you still have the same old 1999 Honda Accord LX? Where do you work? Are you still waiting tables at Applebee’s? Write down the answers to these question. Ask yourself about school. Are you in college somewhere, or have you joined the military? Are you learning a skill or a trade to make a living for yourself? Take this exercise seriously and use the answers to motivate yourself to accomplish all that you desire. If you need help with more questions feel free to hit me up. I would love to get you going in the right direction towards fulfilling your true potential. I’m out. Deuces!

Fear and Ignorance

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With college classes starting soon around the country, I wanted to make sure that I posted a helpful tool for those students still undecided about registering for classes this fall. I am under the belief that most people have a genuine desire to be successful in life. I also believe that most people view college as a means of reaching success.  So logically it follows that securing some sort of higher education  is a legitimate path to success in life. Now if most people believe this, then why do so few pursue the path? I have come to the most simple conclusion; fear and ignorance. Fear is a subject that I will address later. Ignorance I will remedy now. Yogi Berra is an old baseball guy with some great quotes. One says, “you got to be careful, if you don’t know where you are going because you might not get there.” Basically, how can you get somewhere that you don’t know how to get to? How can you do something you don’t know how to do? The answer is, you CAN’T!! How do you get financial aid, pick a school, apply to that school, get accepted, register for classes, get housing,  and books if you don’t even know where in the world to start? Well, that is what I am here for. I will be your admissions counselor. Also, if you are the student who I am addressing, do not be afraid to ask for help. If there is absolutely no one willing to help you there are two resources that I would like for you to check out. The first one is fastweb.com. Fastweb is a free membership site that is loaded with scholarship information for all kinds of students. Quite a few of the scholarships are not even merit based. (meaning you don’t have to have a 4.3 GPA…whats with that guy?) They even have a list of 15 weird scholarships where the qualifying methods are off the wall. The second site that I want you to take a look at is collegeconfidential.com. This is also a membership site where the sign up is free. College confidential is a forum based website, which can be very helpful. There, you can find all sorts articles about choosing a college, getting into college and how to pay for it. I hope those sites are helpful.  I’m Out! Deuces.

Funny article that I found

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21 Power Moves You Can Pull At Your Entry-Level Job

 

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  1. Tip the IT guy.
  2. Audibly sing the lyrics to DMX’s “Party Up” at your desk.
  3. Put your golf clubs in your shared cubicle.
  4. Offer something to drink to anyone who comes to your desk.
  5. Stay late after everyone leaves and have a nice dinner made up of random fridge food. Don’t leave a note.
  6. Press the elevator button to your floor even though it’s already lit.
  7. Set a picture of a lion as your desktop background.
  8. Hit up coworkers on Gchat solely for the purpose to tell them you forgot what you were going to ask.
  9. Show up late and tell your boss you were “meeting with a client” even though your job does not require you to have clients.
  10. Play “Rock ‘n Roll Part 2″ every time you close a deal.
  11. Tell an intern they’re “a straight-shooter with middle management written all over them” despite not having any input on whether or not they get hired.
  12. Roll up your sleeves before noon.
  13. Put a picture of a hot girl on your desk. Don’t explain to anyone who she is.
  14. Challenge an older coworker to a pushup contest.
  15. Hoard Sharpies.
  16. Keep a bottle of high-end liquor in your desk. For emergencies and late nights.
  17. Roll your eyes and check your watch during the sexual harassment seminar.
  18. Take your shoes off at your desk and don’t tell people where the smell is coming from.
  19. Order a dinner entree while out at lunch.
  20. Hire a personal barber to cut your hair and give you a straight razor shave in your cubicle.
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*Editors note: Some, if not all of these, will probably get you fired.

Shake em up…Shake em up…Shake em!

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One of the most important ideas I would like to impart  on a person who comes to me for career advice, is the fact that life is a gamble. Nothing is guaranteed. What scares most people about gambling are the risks involved.  What excites most people about gambling are… the risk involved. Risk and Reward go hand and hand. Therefore, the old saying  holds true, “you can’t win if you don’t play.”  How about we make that saying relevant to what we are discussing. Let’s try it this way, “you can’t win at Life if you don’t play.” Plain and simple, if you were sitting in front of me right now I would tell you to GET INTO THE GAME!!
    Often times I am talking to a potential student who has been out of the game for a while. They have graduated high school maybe a year or two ago. Maybe they tried community college for a couple of semesters and discovered that it wasn’t the best fit for them. Maybe they never went back to school after graduating and decided that they wanted to work at Cold Stone creamery for the rest of their lives. Point is, when I am talking to this potential student, the first thing that I let them know is that action is required. What do I mean by, action is required? For you to win at life, you have to try at life. And when you try something and it doesn’t work, guess what folks –yup that’s right! Try again. But this time, try it in a different way. Lastly, please understand, for you to receive great reward, you must take great risk.
    Break out of your comfort zone. Taking risk involves getting way from what you know; From the things that you know, from the people that you know, and from the places that you know.  Taking a risk means challenging yourself to do something different. Remember that…Do something different. I’m out. Deuces!   

Truth.

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Over the past few months I’ve grown tired. Of everything- of life. I was seriously considering telling everyone about all my stress, troubles, worries, and insecurities including my issues with self harm. It’s just so hard to deal with all on your own. Half of me wants to shout it out to the world, and relax and recover in the empathy and comfort thrown my way, but the other half just wants to stay hidden, stay normal, because I know that after that I can’t go back.

I wasn’t sure how I wasn’t going to do it, but I had decided just to let them see my blog, this one or my tumblr; they’re are both personal to me and would uncover all of my badly kept secrets. Of course, I didn’t go through with it. Was that the cowardly thing to do or the brave?

So, the reason of…

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